...you have to learn where your pain is. You have to burrow down and find the wound, and if the burden of it is too terrible to shoulder, you have to shout it out; you have to shout for help... And then finally, the way through grief is grieving.

Jane Hamilton
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The pain that you feel is your burden. Accepting the pain that you are feeling will allow you to move on to other things in life. It is okay to feel sad, angry, anxious, depressed, or any other emotion that comes with grief. There are times when it is okay to be angry or sad because the emotion helps you move on.

The way through grief is grieving. You can't get through grief unless you allow yourself to feel it fully. That's what patience is all about...patience to let go of the anger and sadness because if you don't, it eats away at your soul.

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